Although it did not feel like it at the time, I can think of several times in my life where the unease of doing something outside my comfort zone was the path to new opportunities and ways of being for me. It is these times, whether we place ourselves in these situations or serendipitously stumble onto them, so that we can go beyond any self-imposed limitations. We gain courage and confidence to be ourselves and to let others see parts of us we may not have known existed. We also learn to accept our own imperfections. We make the realization (hopefully) that when we “trip and fall,” so to speak, picking ourselves up and continuing to move forward seems a better alternative to staying down.
Several years ago, a colleague said something to me that I thought was pretty mean and hurtful in front of several other colleagues. It was incredibly embarrassing for me at the time, but I realized there was some truth to what she was saying. I do not remember exactly what she said, but it was something about how I annoyed her because I never gave an opinion during our discussions and tended to go along with what others were saying about the topic when I eventually did speak up. Truthfully, I was, and sometimes still am, extremely shy. Also, I had significantly less experience than most of my colleagues at the time. My lack of opinion had more to do with lack of knowledge and my own insecurities about that. That incident changed my life forever. I started asking more questions to learn more and expressing my opinions despite my fear that I would embarrass myself by exposing my inexperience. What I found is that I learned a lot and I learned it much more quickly by actively engaging my more experienced colleagues. To this day, my tendency to speak up continues to help me learn important lessons.
So I continue to do those things that are uncomfortable to help me gain courage and become a better person. Those of you that share similar experiences, I would love to hear them. Please share them with us. Or try something outside your comfort zone and tell us how it went.